What is a suction vibrator (or, as most of us will call them clitoral stimulator or suction toys) and how does it work? Well, suction toys use the power of air (or sonic waves, in one case) to create a highly stimulating sensation on and around the clitoris. As you may or may not know, the clitoris is a bigger-on-the-inside marvel of biological machinery that people with vulvas have. Research says it has nearly 8,000 nerve endings in that concentrated area. So yeah, it is a fun lil piece of anatomy many of us have and a great target of pleasure for people who like this kind of stimulation — and it deserves all the love we can give.

So the suction toy’s ability to surround the clit and give it a wealth of strong but not abrasive buzzing — which has its place, but sometimes can be too much for this sensitive spot — is part of why they are such a hit. It’s a sensation that comes pretty close to a specific kind of oral sex (think more sucking and less licking action) and, if you’re having more than one clitoral O in a short period of time, they can be great helpers in making sure the overstimulation doesn’t veer into the side of uncomfortable (unless you’re into that, then go off). And, on top of that, they can often be used to stimulate your nipples too, which is a pretty solid two-fer.

These toys are generally on the quiet side, easy to use on yourself or a partner, rechargeable (no cords or plugs other than a USB charger) and a good number of them are waterproof.  Because of those features, they should check a lot of the modern “yes please” qualities most people are looking for in a toy. So read on for a selection of some of our favorite little suckers on the market — and we promise you this: They suck in the best possible way.

A version of this article was originally published in 2021.

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The Cleveland Clinic defines sex addiction as “excessive sexual thoughts, desires, urges or behaviors that can’t be controlled and cause distress and harm to your relationships, finances and other aspects of your life.” Also called hypersexuality and compulsive sexual behavior, sex addictions are tumultuous for famous individuals due to the many temptations made easily accessible by their status and lifestyle.

From parties and drugs to fans who can’t resist getting as close as possible — literally — to some of the world’s biggest stars, acknowledging and kicking a sex addiction hasn’t been easy for these celebrities, and some of them are still suffering the consequences of their escapades to this day. Jesse James, Mike Caussin, and Lamar Odom all lost their marriages due to their repeated infidelity, for example.

Whether their compulsive sexual behavior has impacted the rest of their lives or were more of a lesson learned, the following celebrities have opened up about their experiences with sex addiction. Read on to learn about how some celebs have recovered fully, how some battle their demons daily, and how all of them were forced to face their addiction in one way or another.

If you always feel a little nervous firing up your noisy vibrator, Womanizer has the toy for you. The fan-favorite brand just launched Vibe, which Womanizer says is the “world’s first silent, clitoral vibrator.” It might just be a gamechanger for anyone with thin walls or nosy neighbors — or anyone who just wants a nice, quiet time under the covers. The best part? We’ve got a code to give you 20 percent off the whole site.

But first, let’s talk Vibe. This noiseless vibrator is designed to stimulate your clitoris, which is typically the epicenter of sexual pleasure for people with vaginas — think over 10,000 nerve endings, more sensitive than the head of a penis, etc. Clitoral toys are super-popular for this reason, and Vibe promises a whole new experience.

Vibe uses UltraWave Vibration, which “combines low-frequency, rumbly vibrations with 10 powerful, harmonic resonances,” the brand explains. The stimulation is described as intense but gentle, and the whole experience should be smooth and sexy without ever crossing the line into too much. Vibe also offers three autopilot modes that last for 10 minutes each, letting you take a full journey into pleasure.

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And of course, Vibe is totally noiseless, which early reviewers confirmed. “The toy in operation is REALLY quiet,” wrote one person, noting that they’d be “confident in using on full power with family / guests in the next room.” One reviewer described the toy as “silent but vibrant,” while another said it opened their eyes to the pleasure of silence. “Before this toy, I didn’t realise how annoying the buzzing of a normal vibrator is,” they wrote. “Being able to use a toy that is this quiet is bliss.” The shape of the toy was also much appreciated, with one person saying it lets you “find your own ridge or edge that works for you.”

Womanizer already has a dedicated fanbase, including right here at SheKnows (one of our writers nearly passed out after testing the Womanizer Premium), and it sounds like Vibe is keeping the good times going. And don’t worry, we didn’t forget about that discount code. You can use the code BUZZ20 for 20 percent off at Womanizer — yes, the whole site! — until November 17, 2024.

In other words, now’s the time to stock up on all those sexy, bestselling goodies for the end of the year (and gift-giving season! Sex toy advent calendars anyone…?). And if you’re traveling, Vibe might be the perfect toy to stash in your suitcase for some one-on-one fun with a partner (or yourself!) after the holiday party’s over. It’s gentle, powerful, and totally silent — so why not?

Before you go, here are 69 sex positions you should definitely try:

Remember that scene in Broad City when Ilana sees police officers in the subway station, so she stashes her weed in her vagina? She dubs it “nature’s pocket” and it turns out she’s not the only one using this pocket in unexpected ways and putting questionable, non-approved items in her vagina. And no, we’re not just talking about creative homemade sex toys.

People with vaginas have attempted to smuggle or hide loaded pistols, Rolex watches, marijuana pipes, crack, lighters, money, cellphones, cigarettes, makeup, fireworks (yes, really), alcohol, and a host of other drugs and stolen items in their vag. Of course, few people would actually consider inserting things like loaded guns and fireworks inside their vaginas. (In case there’s any confusion — please don’t.) But sometimes, in an attempt to make things more interesting in the bedroom, some of us do make questionable decisions about what actually goes in there.

Sure, your vagina can stretch and accommodate quite a few things, but being able to do it doesn’t mean you should. “When considering what is safe to put in the vagina, it’s important to remember that the vagina is a delicate and sensitive part of the body,” Dr. Rakhee Patel, a board-certified OB-GYN with Pinewood Family Care Co. Shape, size, and cleanliness of the object are all things to consider here, because sticking the wrong thing in there can result in a host of health issues, from major injuries and tears in your vaginal canal to infections and irritation… not to speak of the embarrassment at your OB-GYN’s office.

So, quick disclaimer: make sure anything going in your vagina is clean, smooth, and skin-safe. “Our bodies’ natural bacterial balance can easily be thrown off by the foreign bacteria lodged in the crevices of toys or food,” sex coach Jenna Switzer told SheKnows in a previous interview. “Be mindful that you clean items thoroughly with a non-scented soap and use condoms on any objects that you use for penetration.” Condoms will also reveal any hidden, sharp edges on the object, potentially saving your vulva and vagina from a painful encounter.

With all that said, let’s get to the good, vagina-safe stuff. Turns out, the list of approved things you can put in your vagina is short and easy to remember.

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A penis

Penises are totally allowed to enter mouths, vaginas, and buttholes. Just remember to put a condom on it to avoid STIs and unwanted pregnancies. A note: Flavored condoms should only be used for oral sex, as the flavor chemicals can irritate your vaginal lining.

Fingers

Fingers (attached to hands, of course!) also feel pretty good. As long as the person’s nails are trimmed short with sharp corners filed away and kept clean, digits are a good time. You can improve your safe sex practices by washing your hands beforehand (or wearing latex gloves!) and adding lube.

Boric acid suppositories

Boric acid suppositories, like The Killer from Love Wellness, are used to treat vaginal yeast infections and/or odor, and are safe to use under the direction of a doctor. You simply insert one deep inside your vagina, “preferably at bedtime,” OB-GYN Dr. Anna Cabeca tells SheKnows. “Wearing a pad can help with any leakage,” she adds, noting that she usually prescribes 600 mg capsules to be inserted twice a day for 10 to 14 days.

Dr. Cabeca recommends using a suppository “as directed by a healthcare professional, especially if you have other conditions like diabetes or are pregnant.” You should also avoid using them if you have any open sores or cuts around your vagina, because this can cause irritation. And of course, if you experience pain, bleeding, or no improvement in your symptoms after a few days, it’s a good idea to check back in with your doctor. (PS: avoid having intercourse while using the suppositories and make sure to only use them vaginally, as boric acid is toxic if swallowed.)

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Lubricants

There are still lots of myths about lubricants. We’re here to tell you that oil-based lubes are actually OK, and maybe even a better choice for some, according to Lilly (who goes only by her first time), a sex toy expert and blogger at Dangerous Lilly.

“Synthetic oil-based lubes have been proven to cause vaginal infections in some, but there is much less chance for an interaction when a natural oil is used,” she tells SheKnows. “They shouldn’t be used by anyone relying on latex or polyisoprene condoms for STI and pregnancy protection, though.”

She adds that silicon-based lubricants are actually safe to use and that contrary to popular belief, “many water-based lubes are incompatible with vaginal pH or have irritating ingredients that make some folks more susceptible to vaginal infections and can increase STI transmission.” Note that silicon-based lube shouldn’t be used with silicone sex toys, though, as it can make the toys degrade. You should also avoid using lubes with sugars in them (like scented lubes), as they can also mess with your pH and lead to infection.

Period products

A good rule of thumb is that if an item was “designed specifically for vaginal use,” you can generally assume it’s safe, Patel says. That includes lubes (see above) and period products that go directly in your vagina, such as tampons and menstrual cups or discs. “These items are made with materials and ingredients that are tested for vaginal safety,” Patel explains.

Sex toys

According to statistics, the global adult sex toy market was valued at $32.7 billion in 2022. That’s a lot of satisfied customers using a lot of sex toys… although not all of them are created equal.

Sex toy materials are a complex and wide-ranging topic, but in short, the safest materials are the ones that are considered chemically stable and don’t harbor bacteria and fungi in the pores, Lilly says. This includes silicone, body-safe metal alloys like titanium, aluminum blends, stainless steel, glass, properly sealed ceramic, and wood. You also want to make sure you’re cleaning your sex toys (here’s a guide from Lilly) and replacing them if they start looking a little worse for the wear.

There are actually no regulations for sex toy materials, so be wary of claims of “FDA-approved” toys, Lilly notes. Shopping at reputable stores and reading reviews from trustworthy bloggers will help you make good sex toy choices.

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Food & select other objects

According to Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, board-certified OB-GYN and gynecology professor at Columbia University, your main concern when considering items other than penises, fingers, period products, and sex toys is using objects with a smooth, nonporous surface, no sharp edges, no irritants, and nothing that would degrade a condom.

“You want to make sure that whatever you put in, you can completely take out,” she tells SheKnows. “That’s why most food is a problem: It’s difficult to remove it. Peeled bananas, for example.” Other foods to avoid include spicy foods like chili peppers and spreadables like peanut butter. Be aware as well that putting food items in your vagina can “cause infections and irritations,” Patel says. If you do choose to try some penetrative food play, make sure to “clean thoroughly, check for sharp edges or nubs, and use a condom to cover any part that goes inside your body,” Switzer says.

If you are into temperature play (using hot or cold objects as part of the sexual experience), avoid putting ice directly into your vagina, as it can stick to your delicate skin. Instead, cover it with a condom to create a barrier. Very hot surfaces can also cause damage because “the [vaginal] lining is very delicate and can easily be burned,” Hutcherson adds.

Again, the safest way to play with your food is to put a condom on it. That way, you avoid risks attached to bacteria, irritation or pH imbalances. As long as the item is big enough to be removed, has no sharp or uncomfortable edges, and is not easily breakable (like a large cucumber or squash), you should be fine.

Non-vagina safe items: douches and vaginal washes

Douching or using harsh, scented soaps or vaginal washes are a no-go in your vagina, Patel says, because they can “can disrupt the natural pH and bacterial balance, leading to infections or irritation.” Fun fact: your vagina is self-cleaning, so you really don’t need any extra products down there to do it for you.

Beyond that, remember that any product not specifically designed to go in your vagina really isn’t meant to be in there — so if you’re planning on experimenting with zucchinis in bed, you’ll want to take precautions. And in general, Patel recommends being cautious with what you put in your vagina and prioritizing products specifically designed for vaginal health. “Always read labels and instructions, and when in doubt, consult with a healthcare professional,” she says. “Remember, each person is different, so what works for one might not work for another. It’s essential to listen to your body and seek professional advice if you have concerns or experience discomfort.”

A version of this article was originally published in June 2019.

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Ah butts, the great equalizer. Everyone’s got ‘em and the ability to feel immense tushy pleasure. Whether you’re a beginner or you’ve been around the booty block, we’ve got the best anal sex toys to make your anal exploration a thrilling adventure.

Of course, if it’s your first time using anal sex toys, it’s normal to feel intimidated and nervous — or even a little scared, especially if nothing has ever been up there before. Remember to go slow, communicate if you’re with a partner(s), and pay attention to what feels good — and what feels like too much.

“The first thing to consider when you’re venturing into anal territory is how an anus becomes a pleasure zone for both male and female-bodied people,” says Gigi Engle, a certified sex and relationship psychotherapist and resident intimacy expert at dating app, 3Fun. “People of all (or no) genders have a butt hole and it is a potential erogenous zone for everyone.”

We have lots of excellent anal sex toys to recommend for all levels of experience, but first, let’s go over a few cardinal rules of anal play to ensure you have a good time once you rev up your shiny new toy.

Anal Sex Toy Tips

“Stigma and shame just leads people to engage in anal without knowing what they’re doing,” Engle tells SheKnows. “The anus is very sensitive. It doesn’t lube up or naturally stretch the way a vagina does.”

Because of that, there are a few things to know before jumping in with your anal sex toy. “If you go for anal sex immediately, without any warm up, you’re going to hurt someone,” Engle cautions. “You risk tearing, anal fissures, or a trip to the ER.” Yep, it’s that serious — so don’t skip any of these simple safety steps.

Lube it up. When it comes to any kind of anal play, “lube is your golden ticket,” Engle says. (And no, spit isn’t an acceptable substitution.) “Get yourself some reliable lube. The wetter the better,” Engle says. Without lube, you’re looking at potentially hurting yourself or your partner. For silicone toys, be sure to use water-based lube, such as, Sliquid H2O and KY Liquid, because silicone lube will bond with your silicone toys and cause damage (besides making them sticky and uncomfortable). However, if you’re using a metal or glass toy, definitely go with a silicone lube like Überlube — it will last forever and can be used in the shower!

Grab a condom. If you’re engaging in anal with a partner, make sure to have a condom handy, especially if you don’t know their current STI status, Engle says. (BTW, that’s always a good thing to talk about before having sex of any kind.) “The delicate tissue of the anus is highly susceptible to STIs,” Engle explains. “Safer sex is better sex.” That includes putting a condom on any penises or sex toys that are involved.

Start with a finger. Start opening things up with one well-lubed finger, then try two, then a small butt plug. Make sure to take your time. “The anus is not a muscle that naturally stretches to allow objects inside of it,” Engle says. “We know exactly what it’s primary physical function is, and it’s not an entryway. It needs to be gently stretched and kneaded.”

Keep it shallow. Whether you’re penetrating with a penis, toy, or finger, there’s no need to go super deep. “You don’t need to shove anything super far up a rectum to feel sensation,” Engle explains. In fact, most of your anal nerves are within the first two inches of your anal opening. “This is a nerve-rich cluster that can be stimulated with fingers, a small (or large, depending on your experience level) butt plug,” Engle says. “There is a common misconception that because the anus is not a closed canal like the vagina, you should stick things up as far as they can go. This is not the case.”

Be patient. “Anal training can take anywhere from a few hours to a few months,” Engle says, so don’t rush yourself. “If you move too quickly, you could wind up in serious pain. The chances of getting to try anal again once you’ve hurt someone are slim to none. Better safe than sorry.”

Now that you’re lubed up, strap in (pun intended) and let’s get anal.

The Best Anal Sex Toys At a Glance

Best Overall: Lovehoney Butt Tingler 10 Function Vibrating Butt Plug, $26
Best for Pegging: Unbound Nudge, $25
Best for First-Time Penetration: Aneros Progasm, $60
Best for Vibration Lovers: b-Vibe Novice Butt Plug, $100 (originally $133)
Best Anal Beads: Fifty Shades of Grey Pleasure Intensified Anal Beads, $9
Best Small Plug: Tantus Little Flirt Small Plug, $27
Best Stainless-Steel Toy: Njoy Pure Plug, $48 (originally $60)
Best for Long-Distance Lovers: We-Vibe Ditto, $97
Best for Intense Vibrations: Earth Quaker Anal Vibe, $30 (originally $60)
Best for Rimming: B-vibe Rimming Plug 2, $165
Best for Dual Penetration: Silicone Love Rider Dual Penetrator, $17 (originally $26)
Best for Prostate Stimulation: Lelo Bruno, $149

Our mission at SheKnows is to empower and inspire women, and we only feature products we think you’ll love as much as we do. Lovehoney is a SheKnows sponsor, however, all products in this article were independently selected by our editors. Please note that if you purchase something by clicking on a link within this story, we may receive a small commission of the sale.

Anal Sex Toys for First-Timers

BEST OVERALL

Lovehoney Butt Tingler 10 Function Vibrating Butt Plug

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BEST FOR PEGGING

Unbound Nudge

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“This one is great for pegging if it’s your first time,” Engle says of the sleek and user-friendly Unbound Nudge. Smooth and tapered, the Nudge is designed to slide in easily and be comfortable for beginners.

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BEST FOR FIRST-TIME PENETRATION

Aneros Progasm

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If you’re looking to try prostate penetration for the first time, Engle says the Aneros Progasm is the way to go. It comes with a round perineum tab and a luxurious K-tab, which adds spine-tingling sensation.

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BEST FOR VIBRATION-LOVERS

b-Vibe Novice Butt Plug

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The b-Vibe Novice Butt Plug is “a great toy for first time users if you like vibration,” Engle says. It’s small enough to be accessible for beginners while offering plenty of soothing, tantalizing vibration. It’s a win-win, because the vibrating will turn you on and help relax the sensitive muscles in this area.

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BEST ANAL BEADS

Fifty Shades of Grey Pleasure Intensified Anal Beads

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True beginners can’t go wrong by starting with Fifty Shades of Grey Pleasure Intensified Anal Beads. They’re flexible, thin enough for even the smallest of anal openings, and have a great loop for fingers or other toys.

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BEST SMALL PLUG

Tantus Little Flirt Small Plug

$27

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Ready for more plug play? The Tantus Little Flirt plug is another great for beginners looking to play with penetration. And of you really want to up the spice level, this plug is discreet enough to wear out of the house for an extra sexy date night.

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Anal Sex Toys for Anal Enthusiasts

BEST STAINLESS STEEL TOY

Njoy Butt Plug

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This perfectly weighted stainless-steel toy is the ultimate plug. The Njoy Butt Plug comes in three different sizes and is water-resistant, while offering a sexy weighted fullness that can’t be found in traditional silicone toys. For some extra fun, throw this plug in the freezer for 10 minutes before playing for some bonus chilly sexiness.

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BEST FOR LONG-DISTANCE LOVERS

We-Vibe Ditto

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This rechargeable, waterproof vibrating plug has 10 vibration modes to keep you surprised all night long. Better yet, the We-Vibe Ditto can be completely controlled by an app for partner play from any distance.

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BEST FOR INTENSE VIBRATIONS

Earth Quaker Anal Vibe

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If you want to one up your anal bead experience, check out this anal vibrator. The Earth Quaker Anal Vibe has offers the same kind of gradual stretching as anal beads, but with 12 speeds of vibration for extra stimulation.

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Anal Sex Toys for Seasoned Professionals

BEST FOR RIMMING

B-vibe Rimming Plug 2

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The world’s first rimming plug, the B-vibe Rimming Plug 2 both vibrates at the tip and mimics the sensation of a tongue in the neck of the toy. It has a remote control for dominant/submissive play, and because it simulates a tongue and finger combo, it leaves your hands and mouth free for other activities. (Double oral anyone?).

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BEST FOR DUAL PENETRATION

Silicone Love Rider Dual Penetrator

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If there is a penis and a vagina in your play equation, this is a fun toy for dual penetration. Made to be harnessed around the base of the penis, the Silicone Love Rider Dual Penetrator can be inserted in the anus or vagina. With a bit of finagling, this toy could also be attached to a strap-on for double penetration with no penis present.

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BEST FOR PROSTATE STIMULATION

Lelo Bruno

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Once you feel comfortable with anal play and insertion, this prostate-tingling toy is perfect for any penis owner. The Lelo Bruno has two motors for both prostate and external perineum stimulation. This toy is easy to use solo for masturbation, and its waterproof capabilities make it a great bath time buddy. Plus, its shape is designed to stay, so you can wear it around all day long.

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Anal toys are an amazing way to change things up in the bedroom, explore your body fully and engage in pleasure that can’t get anyone pregnant. Anal play can be great for all bodies, but be sure to ease into this new level of play, embrace lube, and use condoms on your toys if you plan to use them with more than one person. Have fun, be safe, and get your great equalizer going.

A version of this post was originally published in 2018.

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It’s officially Prime Day, so take this as your annual reminder that Amazon has some of the best sex toys around. They’re already offered at relatively affordable prices, but when those sweet Prime Day discounts hit, you know it’s the perfect time to refresh your collection. There are plenty of sex toy deals to hit up and save on a little something just for you (or you and your partner) — and, hey, maybe it’s time you make your next big sexy purchase on Prime Day.

We’ve got the scoop on a few great toys available (many for a discount) this Prime Day 2024 from retailers like LELO, Womanizer, and more. Whether you’re a beginner looking to dip your toe into the world of sex toys or a seasoned expert looking to try something new, we’ve done all the work to find the best sex toy deals on Amazon right now. And while while the toys themselves should be enjoyed at whatever pace you desire (marathon? Sprint? You decide), we recommend grabbing your new items soon — some of these deals will only last until the end of Prime Day, so now is the time to buy. Good vibes only from here on out!

As a reminder, all the incredible discounts you can score during Prime Big Deal Days are for Amazon Prime members. If you’re not a member yet, be sure to sign up HERE to take advantage of all the great at Amazon.

Satisfyer Pro 2

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This clitoral suction-based toy is waterproof and quiet — a great choice if you like shower play — with 11 different intensity levels to choose from. You can snag this Satisfyer Pro 2 for 20 percent off this Prime Day at $39.95.

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PHANXY Rabbit Vibrator

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Rabbits are the real deal when it comes to vibrators. This PHANXY G Spot Rabbit Vibrator is designed to stimulate both the G spot and the clit for the dual action you’re looking for. It also warms to the touch for some additional sensation (but don’t worry, it won’t get too hot!). You can make it yours for just $19.97 this Prime Day (a full 48 percent off the regular price!).

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In the era of Barbiecore, it’s a definite necessity to stock up your sex toy collection with a Barbie pink vibrator. How cute is it?! Not only that, this Ava Personal Vibrator Wand is only $17 on Prime Day. The bendable vibrator is perfect for a carry-on bag and has 20 different vibration settings. After you’re done, you can just clean it with a wet wipe and you’re good to go.

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LELO SILA

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A LELO spin on a suction clitoral stimulator, SILA got rave reviews for it’s sonic power. Easy to charge and use, your clit will thank you for picking this one up. Buy now, because it’s 25 percent off this Prime Day. 

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LELO ORA 3

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Get that tongue-licking tingle with the LELO ORA 3, which is designed to simulate oral sex with its tongue-like nub and super-soft silicone. Featuring 12 different vibration patterns and a luxurious waterproof design, the ORA 3 is also 33 percent off for Prime Day this year.

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LELO SONA

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At a whopping 51 percent off, you won’t find a better bang (get it?) for your buck than with the LELO SONA. This clitoral vibrator uses sonic waves to caress your clit, with eight settings to help you find the exact frequency that works for you.

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Dame Eva

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Tiny but oh-so-powerful, Dame’s Eva massager is designed to be hands-free, so you can enjoy all of its delicious vibrations while using your hands to play with your partner or yourself. It’s also waterproof and totally ready to be enjoyed in the shower or for some sexy self-care in the bath. And right now, this little powerhouse is 20 percent off for Prime Day.

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Dame Dip Massager

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Dame’s newest massager is 20 percent off for Prime Day, so there’s no better time to grab yours. Simple yet intense, this versatile vibe can be held and adjusted in multiple ways so you can seek your most powerful pleasure while keeping things quiet and discreet.

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Lube Life Water-Based Personal Lubricant

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What better to go with your new sex toys than some lube? This water-based option from Lube Life is safe for all your accessories (FYI: silicone lube is a no-go with silicone toys!) and has notched over 110,000 five-star reviews, with buyers describing it as “silky smooth.” Best of all, it’s 15 percent off for Prime Day.

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Womanizer Deals

If you haven’t met the toe-curling icons at Womanizer, now’s your chance to do so without breaking the bank!

Womanizer Pro40

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A clitoral suction vibe that’s had some seriously rave reviews, the Womanizer Pro40 is a powerful non-penetrative option for intense stimulation — it’s got six intensity levels each more exciting than the last. Prime members can save 30 percent on this bad boy today for Prime Day, snagging it for $51.80 instead of $74.

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Womanizer Premium 2

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Ready to be seriously satisfied? Womanizer’s Premium 2 clitoral stimulator, recently featured in Katy Perry’s “Woman’s World” music video, makes it so easy. This one-of-a-kind toy uses the brand’s Pleasure Air Technology, which creates “gentle air vibrations [that] suck and massage at the same time.” Yes, it’s as good as it sounds (and 25 percent off right now).

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Womanizer Duo 1

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Who doesn’t love a two-for-one? Womanizer’s penetrative and suction vibe Duo 1 gives you major bang for your buck by combining suction technology (similar to the feeling of oral) and G-spot stimulation. And Prime members can score it for 30 percent off this Prime Day!

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Ho ho ho or ooh la la? How about both? If perking up your sex life is at the top of your holiday wish list, don’t tell Santa. Leave it to Lovehoney to freshen up your sexy time toy drawer instead. You’ll just need one thing: Lovehoney’s 24-Day X Womanizer Couple’s Sex Toy Advent Calendar. It’s packed with sexy surprises for solo and partner play to jingle your bells all holiday season long.

Each day, for 24 days, you’ll get to unwrap a fun (and frisky!) surprise. Inside you’ll find premium products that are sure to spice up your sex life, whether with sensory play, bondage, or massage. One day you might unwrap a vibrator, maybe the next day a massage oil, and the day after that velvet handcuffs. You can trust the quality of these intimate products too, since they’re all from premium brands, including We-Vibe and Womanizer. 

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You can’t beat the eye-popping savings either. The advent calendar is a massively good deal, priced at $199, with over $530 worth of products (!) tucked within the 24 boxes. That’s a massive discount of over $331, or 63 percent. In fact, three of the standout products—must-haves for any grown-up toy drawer—are worth more than the entire calendar. 

Don’t like surprises? You can see a detailed list of what’s inside the calendar on Lovehoney’s site, or keep the mystery alive for an extra sexy December. Here’s a tantalizing sneak peek though: the calendar includes the We-Vibe Sync Lite, which alone is worth $89. It’s a wearable, app-controlled couple’s vibrator that lets you enjoy surprising hands-free play, whether you’re in the same room or miles apart. Consider it one way to add excitement to you or your partner’s boring business trip. 

You’ll also enjoy the Womanizer Liberty 2, which will surely blow your mind (and quite literally your clitoris too) with Pleasure Air Technology that provides suction and 10 intensity levels to match your mood. The Womanizer Liberty 2 is worth $99 on its own—half the price of the entire advent calendar.

No need to blush thinking your delivery person will know too much about your bedroom life either. Lovehoney always delivers products in discreet packaging, so you won’t set off whispers between your neighbors.

Take it from one reviewer who said, “The calendar was a fun way to add some variety and spontaneity to our relationship. If you’re looking for a playful way to explore new things with your partner, I’d definitely say give it a shot. It’s a great way to connect!”

This advent calendar is a gift that keeps on giving, all year long. Jingle all the way, indeed!

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One of the pros of living in the 21st century is how much we’ve opened up about sexuality. That said, this progress doesn’t come without its downsides. With the boom in sexual wellness, shopping personal lubricants can be rather overwhelming. That’s why we talked to two sex experts and asked about their recommendations for the best water-based lubes.

Knowing what you’re looking for and what questions to ask can help you feel a little less anxious when you’re shopping. For instance, how do you know if a lubricant is water-, silicone-, or oil-based? What ingredients should you look for, and which should you avoid? When can’t you use a lubricant internally? The answer to these questions will provide insight that empowers you to make the best decisions for your pleasure and sexual health.

Below, sexuality educator Cindy Luquin, AASECT, and sexologist Carol Queen, PhD, provide their favorite water-based lubes, share what to know about shopping for one, and leave us with final considerations.

Best Water-Based Lubes, According to Experts, at a Glance

Best Overall: Bloomi Smooth Water-Based Personal Lubricant
Best Hydrating: Maude Shine Organic Aloe- and Water-Based Lubricant
Best for Sensitive Skin: Pjur Woman Aqua
Best Wellness: Playground Love Sesh
Best Gel: Smile Makers Generous Gel
Best Antimicrobial: Coconu Water-Based Personal Lubricant
Best on Amazon: #LubeLife Water-Based Lubricant 
Best for Vaginal Dryness: Lola Personal Lubricant 
Best Flavored: Wicked Simply Passion Fruit
Most Like Body Fluids: Personal Fav Whet 
Thickest Consistency: Good Vibes Good Lube Gel Lubricant
Best Organic: Good Clean Love Almost Naked Personal Lubricant

What Is Water-Based Lube Best For?

According to Luquin, you can reach for a water-based lube whenever you’re considering having sex, and not necessarily just partnered or penetrative. The entire point of a lube—water-based or otherwise—is to reduce friction. “This makes it more pleasurable and facilitates sexual experiences,” Luquin adds.

Dr. Queen adds that using a water-based lube is a must when your sexual activities include latex or silicone. You see, oil-based lubes will “eat holes” in latex and damage silicone or latex toys. Plus, “Many users feel that water-based lubes feel more like bodily fluids,” says Dr. Queen. If you’re looking for something that feels natural and is safe for your body, condoms, and toys, water-based lubes are your best bet.

What Ingredients to Look for in Water-Based Lube 

“Really the main thing you want is water,” says Dr. Queen. She adds that you also want “a molecule or substance that makes it slippery, and something that acts as a preservative.” Vegan folks or people with sensitive skin might also want to opt for plant-based lubes.

If you’re experiencing vaginal dryness or notice that you’re a little raw post-coitus, Luquin says it’s also a good idea to look for aloe vera in the lube formulations. “Think about when you get a sunburn. You put aloe on it because it’s very cooling and soothing to the skin. It’s kind of the same idea here,” she says. 

Even when the ingredients list looks right, it may take some trial and error to figure out which lube works best for you and your partner. Consider things like:

Texture: “You might like it light and slick, or thicker and more cushy,” Dr. Queen says.
Scent and taste: Think about whether you want it to even smell or taste like anything in the first place
Duration: “Water-based lubes dry out eventually,” says Dr. Queen. Check the label on the lube you want before committing. Worst case, Dr. Queen says you can “rehydrate” the lube by flicking some water onto it.
pH balance: “Lubes that are pH-balanced are an especially good idea if you find you have issues with vaginal health. For some, simply throwing off the pH is enough to give you trouble,” says Dr. Queen.

What Ingredients to Avoid in Water-Based Lube

Both Dr. Queen and Luquin agree that there are a handful of ingredients you should avoid at all costs. Luquin, for one, cautions against lubes that contain parabens and alcohol. “You want things that are a little bit more sensitive for that delicate area so you can be healthy overall,” she says. 

Dr. Queen adds that you don’t want your lube to contain sugar, especially if you’re going to use it internally. Another thing she notes is that some people might want to avoid glycerin even though not everyone has a bad reaction to it. “It’s one of the agents that can make a lube slick,” says Dr. Queen, but it’s not the only one and, as such, isn’t worth the risk of discomfort.

The 12 Best Water-Based Lubes

BEST OVERALL

Bloomi Smooth Water-Based Personal Lubricant

$15

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Luquin’s favorite thing about Bloomi is that the brand is as clean as it gets, meaning that their products are all formulated with the least amount of harmful products. “They really did a great job at making sure that it’s healthier and that it’s going to not throw off your pH balance,” says Luquin. And since it’s water-based, it’s also compatible with most condoms and sex toys.

I’ve used Bloomi for myself and I love that it feels luxurious while having an affordable price point. This lube does its job of keeping you slippery and doesn’t get tacky. Additionally, the brand is founded by a sexologist—which means that it has a sex-positive ethos, and we can certainly get behind that.

Key ingredients: Water, sunflower seed extract, and green tea extract
Size: 3 oz.
Flavored/Scented: No

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BEST HYDRATING

Maude Shine Organic Aloe- and Water-Based Lubricant

$25

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Maude’s Shine Organic is truly one of the best water-based lubes you’ll ever find. Aside from gliding on ever so smoothly, it helps keep your vulva in good shape. “The nice thing about having an aloe-based lube is that it’s going to be more hydrating,” says Luquin. “It’s going to make sure the skin is still healthy, moist, and lubricated—even after you wipe away.” 

We love that this product is available in two, four, and eight ounces and that it’s free of parabens, fragrances, and glycerin. It’s also vegan, cruelty-free, and pH balanced. Unlike products that come in a tube, this bottle’s dispenser makes it easy to get even the very last drop of lube. 

Key ingredients: Water, aloe extract
Size: 2, 4, or 8 oz.
Flavored/Scented: No

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BEST FOR SENSITIVE SKIN

Pjur Woman Aqua

$11 $14 21% off

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This earned the Best for Sensitive Skin award because it’s one of the few lubes that’s undergone the rigorous process of dermatological testing. “They’ve actually done the testing to make sure that there’s no irritation to the skin,” says Luquin. “This has proven to be moisturizing and makes it easier and more fun to play around.”

Pjur Aqua, admittedly, may not have the most chic packaging, but you’ll easily look past that when you see its star-studded ingredients list.

Key ingredients: Water, glycerin
Size: 3.4 oz.
Flavored/Scented: No

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BEST WELLNESS

Playground Love Sesh

$20

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In case you didn’t know, Playground is a sexual wellness brand that’s backed by pop superstar Christina Aguilera. “This is almost like a sexual skincare brand and it’s been clinically tested,” says Luquin. “This lube includes adaptogens, which are herbs that enhance pleasure.” 

The star ingredients are Ashwagandha, which is fabulous for de-stressing and easing your nervous system; black cohosh, “which decreases vaginal dryness,” says Luquin; and horny goat weed, which is pretty self-explanatory. “I don’t think I’ve seen any other brand include those types of things into a lubricant,” Luquin shares. There are also skin-loving ingredients like hyaluronic acid, vitamin E, and fermented bamboo extract. 

Key ingredients: Ashwagandha, black cohosh, horny goat weed, hyaluronic acid, vitamin E, and fermented bamboo extract
Size: 3.7 oz.
Flavored/scented: No

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BEST GEL

Smile Makers Generous Gel

$12 $20 40% off

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Since they’re water-based, most of the lubes we tried had a rather liquidy consistency. However, that can get a little too slippery—making it difficult to stay on hands or body parts. That’s why we love Smile Makers Generous Gel, which is fragrance-free, cruelty-free, vegan, and formulated without parabens. 

This lube is silky, sensual, and long-lasting. In fact, one of my former partners dubbed this his favorite lube ( I have more than a dozen) and commented on how slick this stays. Needless to say, this pick remains in my nightstand.

Dipotassium glycyrrhizate and methyl propanediol—the key ingredients here—respectively work to regenerate the skin and maintain that silky feeling.

Key ingredients: Dipotassium glycyrrhizate, methyl propanediol
Size: 1 oz.
Flavored/Scented: No

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BEST ANTIMICROBIAL

Coconu Water-Based Personal Lubricant

$23 $25 8% off

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Coconu is one of the best personal lubricant brands around and offers water- and oil-based options, so make sure you’re grabbing the option with the all-white packaging.  (The light blue box is oil-based and not what we tested for this article.) As you might’ve guessed from the name, Coconu uses coconut water as its base. 

“Fans of drinking coconut water for its nutrients, electrolyte content, and antimicrobial and antioxidant potential may be enthusiastic about trying it in lube form,” says Dr. Queen. Since it’s applied topically, it may not deliver the nutrients or electrolytes in the same way as ingesting it. But it’s still good as an antimicrobial. Plus, “This brand pH-balances their product, too,” Dr. Queen adds.

Key ingredients: Coconut water
Size: 3 oz.
Flavored/Scented: No

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BEST ON AMAZON

LubeLife Water-Based Lubricant

$10 $13 23% off

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Talk about bang for your buck—pun absolutely intended. While most of the lubes on this list are around three ounces, the #LubeLife water-based lube comes in a whopping five different sizes. You can get a 2-, 4-, 8-, 12-, or 32-ounce bottle of this Amazon best seller. Sadly, only the biggest size comes with a dispenser, so you’ll have to squeeze the last drop out of other bottles. We love that this product isn’t formulated with parabens, glycerin, or silicone. If you won’t take our word for it, perhaps you’ll trust the more than 150,000 people who’ve awarded this 4.5 stars.

Key ingredients: Water
Size: 2, 4, 8, 12, or 32 oz.
Flavored/Scented: No

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BEST FOR VAGINAL DRYNESS

Lola Personal Lubricant

$14

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There is a lot to love about this lube, especially that it’s hydrating and moisturizing without containing additives. The formula doesn’t have any synthetic flavors or fragrances, and it’s pH-balanced so as to not cause a reaction in your genital area. I’ve used this lube during my solo love sessions and noticed that it absorbs easily and leaves my vulva and vagina feeling like they just drank the most refreshing glass of water.  

Key ingredients: Water
Size: 1.7 oz.
Flavored/Scented: No

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BEST FLAVORED

Wicked Simply Passion Fruit

$11 $12 8% off

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This is Dr. Queen’s favorite flavored lube. “It’s delicious—like, I-would-flavor-my-water-with-it delicious,” she laughs. “Sorbitol and stevia add sweetness, and it’s enhanced with olive leaf extract, which may have an antimicrobial effect.” 

There are a couple of things to point out here. For one, Wicked says folks can use this lube internally. “I never recommend flavored lube use in the vagina or anus,” says Dr. Queen. “In my opinion, it should be kept to oral play.” Also, while Dr. Queen thinks that this has a really nice flavor, she points out that some people may find it too sweet.

Key ingredients: Water, olive leaf extract, and stevia
Size: 2.3 and 4 oz.
Flavored/Scented: Flavored

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MOST LIKE BODY FLUIDS

Personal Fav Whet

$24

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Though I’ve tried dozens of lubricants, I’d never heard of Personal Fave. In testing it for this article, I was really impressed with how life-like it is. This plant-based sex serum, as Personal Fav branded the product, contains horny goat weed and hemp. It also comes in a chic, matte black bottle with sky blue font on it. It has a single-hand dispenser, which makes it so easy to use, and hydrating aloe to soothe any friction you feel. I used this with a wand vibrator and didn’t notice any damage to it—but I did notice how sultry this lube felt.

Key ingredients: Aloe vera, chamomile, horny goat weed, ginseng, and hemp
Size: 1 oz.
Flavored/Scented: No

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THICKEST CONSISTENCY

Good Vibes Good Lube Gel Lubricant

$9 $10 10% off

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“Our Good Lube Gel is thicker than most lubricants, and we tested it to be as safe for sensitive individuals as possible,” says Dr. Queen, adding that this pick is also pH-balanced. Because it’s a thicker consistency, you feel more cushion, so to speak. According to Dr. Queen, this water-based lube would work especially well for anal play. This formula doesn’t contain glycerin, flavors, or fragrances, which makes it perfect for those who have sensitivities. One thing about this, though, is that the squeeze top isn’t ideal—especially since this has a thicker consistency. If you have trouble squeezing the product out, take the top off and try that way.

Key ingredients: Water, plant cellulose
Size: 2 and 8.5 oz. 
Flavored/Scented: No

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BEST ORGANIC

Good Clean Love Almost Naked Personal Lubricant

$16

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Dr. Queen likes the Good Clean Love Almost Naked water-based lube because it’s “really comfortable to use.” It’s also pH-balanced, organic, non-sticky, good for those with sensitivities, and lightly flavored. Since it does have a slight taste, you might not want to grab this if you’re looking for something more straightforward. This is the best organic pick because it’s 95 percent certified organic ingredients and free of petrochemicals, parabens, glycerin, and artificial fragrances. I tried this for myself and found that it was a bit too sticky for my liking, but there are troves of others who swear by this natural lube. 

Key ingredients: Aloe, agar
Size: 4 oz.
Flavored/Scented: Light flavor

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Final Thoughts

In addition to being aware of the ingredients in a lube, you should also be mindful of whether or not it’s still good. “If you’ve had a bottle of lube sitting there for a while, just smell it before you use it,” says Luquin. “Make sure that there’s no foul scent. If there is, it’s probably expired and you need to go buy a new one.”

Also, whenever you try a new lube, Dr. Queen advises to keep an eye out for any reaction—like ​itchiness or soreness. “This can happen with a latex sensitivity, too, so figure out what’s going on, if you can, to protect yourself from repeated irritant exposure.”

And in case you couldn’t tell from our tone in this article, using lube—out of necessity or recreationally—is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

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When you think of advent calendars, you probably think of the cute little cardboard ones you buy for a school fundraiser that deliver some indulgent chocolates for 25 days leading up to Christmas. We love those for what they are but as adults, we want something a little spicier. Luckily, sex toy advent calendars exist.

… And, turns out, sexual advent calendars are even sweeter than the standard fare. The concept of sex toy advent calendars is the same as the chocolate or gift-filled ones: you get a slew of surprises to unbox one by one, each day. But instead of sweets, you get a daily chance to inject a bit of excitement and sensuality into your sex life.

Best Sex Toy Advent Calendars at a Glance in 2024

Best Overall: Lovehoney 24-Day x Womanizer Couple’s Sex Toy Advent Calendar 2024
Most for Lingerie: Le Desir Sexy Lingerie Calendar
Best for Erotica Fans: Fifty Shades of Grey 10 Days of Play Gift Set
Best for Newlyweds: SpiceBoxx 7-Day Sensual Adventure Set
Best for Romance Lovers: Tingletouch Advent Calendar for Couples — A Romantic December

With the holidays right around the corner (yes, time will fly by fast!), the time to buy these spicy calendars is now. Sexy advent calendars are red hot commodities that are in such high demand, they tend to sell out as fast as lightning. Want to secure yours before they sell out? Jump on the opportunity ASAP — you’ll be glad you did once Christmas comes.

And it doesn’t have to just be a countdown to the holidays. Maybe you want to count down to an anniversary or a special date night, or you just want to liven up the winter when it gets chilly, long, and boring (a whole mood, honestly). These gift boxes will totally help you with those goals — and you can even give them as gifts for friends or your special someone(s).

Read on for a few of the best sex toy advent calendars we’ve spotted in the wild and how to score ’em.

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Lovehoney 24-Day x Womanizer Couple's Sex Toy Advent Calendar 2024

$199 $530 (value) 62% off

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Lovehoney’s 2024 advent calendar with Womanizer may be one of their best yet. In fact, reviewers who already have the calendar say it’s an “amazing product” that’s “worth every penny.” This premium 24-day calendar Lovehoney x Womanizer advent calendar can’t help but catch your eye. Each “gift” is individually packaged and numbered, and range from best-sellers (like the We-Vibe Sync Lite and the Womanizer Liberty) to deluxe BDSM accessories. Not only that, it’s one of Lovehoney’s best valued advent calendars ever. It contains over $530 worth of product, but costs less than $200. With a sampling of so many toys, you’re bound to find something — or many things — to stimulate both you and your partner this holiday season.

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Le Desir Sexy Lingerie Calendar

$170

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This set from Le Desir features eight days of “sexy surprises” to make the holiday season extra spicy. Although it is a lingerie-based calendar and comes with four lingerie sets, the box also comes with a bullet vibe, a wand vibrator, handcuffs, an eye mask, and a whip. Keep in mind, the lingerie sets are One Size Fits Most, which the descriptions claims should be able to fit sizes small to extra large.

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Lovehoney Oh! 30 Nights of Hot Sex Kinky Calendar

$13

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Make the holidays last a little longer with this 30-day sex calendar, which can take you from the beginning of December all the way to New Years. Behind each door is a set of sexy instructions designed to help you and your partner(s) experiment in bed — a perfect way to mix things up when you’re running out of ideas.

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24 Nights of Christmas Lingerie Advent Calendar Set

$405

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If you prefer your sex toys to be of the wearable variety (aka lingerie), Etsy has an advent calendar for you. This gorgeous, 24-day set comes with a ton of sexy products, from burlesque pasties and garter belts to nipple jewelry and handcuffs. Whether it’s you or your partner slipping the gifts on, you’re sure to have a December you won’t forget.

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12 Nights of Christmas Lingerie Advent Calendar Set

$231

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As a cheaper option for a lingerie-based advent calendar, try this 12-day version. It’s a little easier on the wallet, but still features tons of fun toys and pieces, including harnesses, garter belts, and crotchless panties.

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SpiceBoxx 7-Day Sensual Adventure Calendar

$70

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Whether you’re a newlywed yourself or shopping for a friend who just tied the knot (or is looking to mix things up in the bedroom), you can’t go wrong with SpiceBoxx. It’s a seven-day experience, so slightly shorter, but it still packs a punch in the best way. The brand doesn’t give anything away as to what’s inside, only promising “sensual surprises,” but shoppers are calling it a “must-have” for adding excitement to a relationship. Just what we need in the long winter months, TBH.

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Tingletouch Advent Calendar for Couples — A Romantic December

$14

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December is the perfect time for romance, and this enticing Tingletouch advent calendar will help you get some — pun fully intended. For each day, you can choose between three different ways to level up your romantic connection, with PG and NSFW options both included.

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Tingletouch Advent Calendar for Couples — Daring December

$14

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Ramp up the sauciness of the romantic couples calendar and you get this Daring December advent calendar. It’s designed to get you and your partner out of your comfort zone, both in and out of the bedroom, with enticing ideas to spice up your relationship.

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Fifty Shades of Grey 10 Days of Play Gift Set

$120

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Start this 10-day calendar on December 14 and end it with some BDSM-style fun on Christmas Eve. Inspired by Fifty Shades of Grey, you’ll get to unwrap blindfolds, cock rings, and vibrators galore for experimentation and play with a partner or by yourself.

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OK friends, when you think of porn, are you immediately turned off? Yeah, we hear that. It’s 2023, and yet it’s still not an easy task to find porn that you actually want to watch, meaning a website featuring hot, actually good porn that doesn’t overwhelmingly prioritize the male gaze or the male orgasm. Sure, you can wade through the videos to find one where female pleasure and (over-the-top-slash-faked) female orgasms are the focus — but even then, there’s the distinct feeling that because of the way she’s being filmed, there is still a man calling the shots. Let’s be honest, even if you’re watching it with a male partner, you may get the sense that the porn you’re trying to enjoy isn’t for you. And that can make it harder to lose yourself in the story or the sensations the way you’d want to — the way that you should be able to, with good porn.

In other words: where are the porn sites that cater to the female gaze, that honor female sexuality in all its beautiful forms and that don’t objectify women in a way that will have you itching to take a shower immediately after viewing (in a bad way)? Where are the porn sites that feel current and up to date with what we want from sexual media today?

Fear no more, friend, because we have found some legitimately great porn sites for you, the modern, self-loving woman. If you’re tired of porn that feels overwhelmingly straight and cis-male-centric, you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the following selection of sites. And while we’re at it, it’s probably the right time to treat yourself to some new sex toys to really turn up the heat.

Quick PSA, though: please take care and don’t browse this one at your desk, because you’ll be able to access some NSFW websites from here on out. Click with caution and, when it’s time for You-time, have fun!

A version of this story was published on April 2018.